Monday, June 26, 2017

#MicroblogMonday - Summer Stress

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It is official.  One child is Graduated and has a three week break from reality before he starts a summer employment workshop/internship...and the other one--is done with Third Grade and is now at Summer Camp...the strange summer season has begun!

While I find the school year can be its own mess of stress and strain---I find that summers are actually a bit more stressful as a parent.  Sure, there are vacations and fun things to do during summer...but the days/weeks when we are not on vacation...well, those have their whole different level of stress!

Does she have her swim shoes, swimsuit, towel, sun screen, lunch packed (not refrigerator or microwavable and nut-free)?  Traveling to and fro to the various camps that are not necessarily close by (like her school) makes getting to work on-time a fun guessing game...  Another guessing game is which field trip is she going on this week and does she have the official shirt of the camp on while doing it?  Does she need additional money for the trip?  Is she trying to escape the summer camp because she is bored and wants to just go home (based on a True Story from a previous summer)?   Oh, and even though we pay a good amount of money--camp ends at 3 p.m., but you don't get out of work until 5:30 p.m.  -- pay an extra "extended care" fee and get there by 5:45 p.m. on the dot!!)



Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Graduation Part 2

Took off work today to go to the moving up/Graduation ceremony at Michael's school.  Interesting case of perspective:

My husband and I found this ceremony was less superficial and more genuine and moving than the big High School ceremony.  The speakers were better, there seemed to be actual feeling and less pretension.

Michael...liked the big High School ceremony more...found this smaller one pretentious and self serving. 

Guess it is all a matter of where you are on your journey in life, the experiences of being a high schooler versus a parent.

Meanwhile, I did get some idea about why no smiling in pictures...because he feels posing is fake and he seems to think only a genuine smile  (captured unawares or when he is truly doing something worth smiling about) are the only true smiles...

So.  There you have it.  The Graduation Part 2 was moving, superficial, self serving, fun, meaningful, annoying, better (Or worse) than the first one....

He has had two ceremonies...has two caps and gowns....and a proclamation from the Mayor (!)  


Monday, June 05, 2017

#MicroBlog Monday - Graduating

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Yesterday, Michael Graduated from High School.  I cannot believe it even though I was there.  I was there when he was born, I was there when he started Kindergarten.  I was there when he was diagnosed with ADHD/Anxiety Disorder.  I was there in middle school when he was diagnosed as having High Functioning Aspergers...I was there and my heart hurt when he crashed and burned his Freshman year of High School...when I realized that our son was not only a little quirky, but needed more help then the public school could provide.  I was there when he finally started to gain his footholds into adulthood.  I was there at the IEP meeting when the out-placement school was astounded at the progress he has made.  

I still cannot believe he is 18 years old and in 7 days, no longer a High School student.  

But.  It happened.  

But, the most important thing that happened this weekend...I was able to capture a smile on this child of mine...who seldom lets himself be so unguarded (especially near cameras):

Perhaps he will start showing this side of him more often, as he grows into himself.


Meanwhile....there's this to look forward to....

Saturday, May 27, 2017

Insomnia Musings

I am up.  Can't seem to get my mind to quiet down.  Chewy is snoring...Willow is lying on the couch downstairs (She fell asleep there earlier and we did not bring her up this time).

Too many things trouble me tonight.  Some major, some minor.  I need to sleep better.  I have not been going to bed early enough.  And now I have gotten caught alone.  With my thoughts and my worries.   I suppose it is a good thing in a way.  One tends to drown out....I tend to drown out the various things gnawing at me.  Facing those worries....coming up with plans to change them to useful parts of my life... should probably not do this at 1:30  in the morning...

Got Michael to show off his cap and gown tonight.  Also downloaded Snapchat  (mainly for Willows amusement).  Well, here are some results.....

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Status of Things

  • Willow's recital went very well on Saturday.  She played piano, made very minor mistakes.  Her singing group was cute and only a little off key.  She was a was wonderful to see how she can have stage presence if she thinks no one is really watching.  Her progress report from her teacher says she is is her confidence (and in singing, her lack of wanting to keep on key...) that is the thing she needs help with. 

  • The highlight of her recital, to me, was an unexpected change.  Her little singing group were back up for another vocalist.  Part of their part of to portray waves and fish swimming.  Originally, Willow was supposed to be a wave.  But, just before the performance, the teacher changed her to be the fish...and she was in her element.  Here is the video.

  • Tomorrow, Michael is going to get his cap and gown at his old high school.  They are also going to have a quick rehearsal.  One week from this Sunday...he is Graduating.

  • And then going to school until June 14th--when he has a Moving Up/Graduating Ceremony at the school he goes to now.

  • I have almost got all the cremation forms filled out.  Strange to be filling out Death Certificate information when there is life sprouting out all over...and the person you are filling the documents out for is still living too.  

  • We are parent failing when it comes to giving Michael more time driving.  We are so busy lately, he hasn't had real chances to go out and practice.  This will be our priority this Spring/Summer - to get those 40 hours plus parent driving times so that he can then prepare for the road test.

  • Looking forward to a relaxing weekend this lessons, no obligations...just some fun!


Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Thoughts on Mother's Day....

Recently, online, I saw an article about some parents getting upset because a school had sent out a notice that kids would not be making "Mother's Day or Father's Day" gifts.  The reasons the school made were legitimate concerns about inclusion--and a more immediate need concerning one of their students having a tragedy in the family occur recently.  (Here is an article about this)

Regarding that specific issue above, I feel that the parents who are upset need to chill out.  The schools are not there to make the kids do crafts for your gifts.  They are there to learn.  If they happen to make you a Mothers/Fathers Day gift--great, but one should not expect it...and one should take that the school is trying to teach a more important lesson about people in general and about having empathy and understanding about various cultures and families, etc.


Then, it got me thinking about Mother's Day in general and my own experiences with the holiday...

As a mother, I have enjoyed a good many Mother's Days---19 to be exact...

And I have to say--the gifts, by and large, mean nothing.  Sure, my heart swells to see the cute handmade gifts...I keep them for long periods of time..I still have the paper "flowers" that Michael made me so very long ago...but, really....Mother's Day for me is just taking the time out to relax...and get some yummy French Toast from my husband, some type of chocolately thing from my kids--a wonderful lunch out with my family....and time.  Time to sleep in.  Time to have a bubble bath.  Time.  Time is so precious.  Time is what I want.

Unfortunately, as I get older and my children get older--I realize that the one gift, the one perfect slipping my children are growing older and growing away from role as mother is changing.  Time is not a gift that will stay for long...


Monday, May 08, 2017

Weekend - whoosh --

That was a quick weekend!

Michael had a driving lesson, Willow is prepping for her recital on 20th.  She is going to be playing piano and then being part of a singing group.

Then there was shopping and laundry and carpet cleaning...

Luckily, we also got to see Guardians of the Galaxy 2!  oh, and Free Comic Book day!

Not a lot of family hanging out time...a lot of running around time instead!  

Oh, and we sort of watched one of my favorite movies together ("Auntie Mame" me some Rosalind Russell).  (We sort of watched it together--I watched it, Chewy was in the room and sometimes watched it...Willow sort of watched, especially when I said to watch a scene with me...and we watched the end all together at dinner...)

Willow seems to be into doing selfies...

This weekend.  Just being silly.


Monday, April 24, 2017

Nine Year Old

Chewy often wakes up early in the morning to do some work before the day officially that soft early morning hour of 4-6 a.m....sometimes she creeps into his side of the bed...this morning, extra cuddles were had as I marveled at my wonderful Nine.  

She is an old soul, last night lamenting that she only had a few hours before she was eight years old no more.  She is funny and silly and my little energizer bunny.  She is thoughtful and caring and creative.  She is my reader, my squishy bug.  She is my daughter who loves to tell it like it is.  She asks the strangest questions.  She is scared of bugs, but loves plants and playing outdoors.  She loves getting muddy and dirty and likes pretty clothes.  And shoes.  Lots of shoes. She likes comics and some Super Heroes, but is not a total geek like her parents.  She sometimes declares she is a vegetarian, but eats chicken nuggets.  She loves singing and piano, but hates to practice.  She is my Willow.  

Pictures from her Spa Party on the 16th...

Willow and her best friend, Kayla.

The cake was beautiful...but not chocolate (which, apparently, was a pre-requisite for the birthday girl...)

Honey facials...

With cucumbers no less!



And then there was singing and dancing!

And from yesterday, Birthday Lunch with her cousins...

Second lunch entree--she had pasta with butter...but it was a small portion...and I think she liked seeing her cousins pizza--so, second entree she had!

Gift from Michael!  (Despite this look--she said this is her third favorite birthday gift!)

And now...chocolate cake!

Playing with Kirsten

And Lorelei