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Perfect Moment Monday - Movie Time

My friend Lori says "Perfect Moment Monday is about noticing a perfect moment rather than creating one. Perfect moments can be momentous or ordinary or somewhere in between."


Moment #1: It is just me and her. I want to do something special, so I decide we will go to the movies together. A new animated movie came out and I am sure she will like it. I sneak in candy in my purse, but I indulge her with popcorn and an Icee all her own. We sit in the darkened theatre and exchange the looks and whispered comments. We enjoy the movie and our time together. It is nice to just be mother and daughter. Afterwards, on a whim, I decide to take us out to lunch too. She remembers the place and specifically remembers that it has piles of books that children can borrow while they are waiting for their food. It is so wonderful to see sunshine in her eyes and hear it in her voice. It may not be spring yet weather-wise…but I see her sprouting and blossoming in that moment.

Moment #2: The next d…

PAIL Bloggers - Monday Snapshot

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I haven't participated in the Monday Morning Snapshot in a while...

Willow not being as cute as she was 2 seconds before I snapped this picture...in one of her new spring dresses.  (One month from today, she will be officially a five year old!)
While the calendar says Spring, and this new dress says Spring...it is not really Spring like weather here yet in New England. 
I think we are all looking forward to spring!

Lingering Effects

The leaves were falling from the great oak at the meadow's edge. They were falling from all the trees.


One branch of the oak reached high above the others and stretched far out over the meadow. Two leaves clung to it's very tip. "It isn't the way it used to be." said one leaf to the other.

"No,"the other leaf answered. "So many of us have fallen off tonight we're almost the only ones left on the branch."

"You never know who's going to go next, "said the first leaf. "Even when it was warm and the sun shone, a storm or a cloudburst would come sometimes, and many leaves were torn off, though they were still very young. You never know who's going to go next."

"The sun hardly shines now," sighed the second leaf, "and when it does, it gives no warmth. We must have warmth again."

"Can it be true," said the first leaf, "can it really be true, that others come to take our places when we&#…

Unexpected Benefits

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She asks me to come up to snuggle with her in her new bed.  She never slows down during the day (is she sick?).

Usually it is "come play with me" or lately singing and dancing (she is so good with both--so much so that when she does it at an inopportune moment, I cannot stop her as easily as a "good parent" should...)

Right now...in the middle of a Sunday, when we have just finished a busy social day out...she has asked me to snuggle. 

We go up to her newly re-arranged room, to her new twin sized bed.  A bed that I can lay on too.

And she fusses with books and toys while we lay.  It is the typical thing with her--perpetual motion.  I sigh and lay with her in her bed.  I read to her we snuggle under her new sheets and comforter.

She gets up to get a juice box.  I lay on her bed and look around at her room in a new perspective.  I close my eyes, wishing she would actually take a promised nap with me.

She comes back, drinks her juice box, while we read another book.�…

Big Girl Bed!

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It has been about 8 weeks since we picked it out at the furniture store, but today was the day Willow got her new bed!

She helped pick it out at the furniture store (she "helped" but did not dictate--otherwise the bed would have been PINK!)

A week ago I had her pick out bedding.  Today...it arrived and she was so happy to have it!

(The pictures with my cell phone do not do it justice--also points out to me that she needs another lamp in her room...)

Just arrived and assembled, came this morning, so she was still in pjs.

Kif was the second one on the bed!  He had to explore!
Willow and I spent time re-arranging her room and putting things on her headboard shelves.  Willow wanted "books on the bottom shelves, toys on the top shelves" Tonight I read to her from the first chapter book I am reading to her at bedtime (Bambi) and looked at the different perspective of the room, realized how different this little girl is from the baby that used to inhabit this bedroom.  P.S.…

School Daze

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This week, Chewy went to a parent orientation for incoming freshman for high school.  Oh, wait, did I just type FRESHMAN in HIGH SCHOOL?? 

This week, Michael brought home a brochure from the high school.  We have been spending this week going over what classes he will be taking in the fall.  It seems so different (but yet the same) from when I was in high school.  It is a bit more sophisticated, daunting and frustrating.  I can tell that we as parents will need to be vigilant that he has the right classes to move him forward to higher learning/life.  So far, classes have included Honors English and Honors Algebra, Physics, and surprisingly to me, Band.  I worry about whether he will be able to deal with the more difficult class load (just reading the descriptions in the brochure, English requires 12 (count 'em) essays (not his strong suit) and one research paper.  He will definitely be challenged.  I think he is intelligent enough--I worry about his study habits and his ability t…

Growing Up

When our friend died, Michael never cried.  He was sad, but he did what he normally does--internalized his emotions. He is often stoic and a loner type, a personality and Aspergers trait.  It is hard to get into his emotional core sometimes.

Yesterday, for the first time in a long time, I heard him cry.  That awful cry of heartache and grief and loss.  I could tell by his cries that it was not just for the loss of Lily (who he had gotten extra close to), but also the BIG thoughts of early adult hood...mortality and all that entails.

Part of me was happy that something had reached his emotional core.  A part of me was glad to see him grasping things that are hard, that at least this was a gentle entry into this part of life (and death). 

But mostly--my heart ached for my son who was inconsolable.

He had a good cry, I held him and rubbed his back.  He slept a little on the couch.  He talked to his dad and he had a good long shower. 

Broken Hearted

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For a while, it looked liked Lily was adjusting to her new home.  She even started to come up on the couch and sit with us in the evenings.  She stayed in Michael's room a lot, but seemed to come down to eat and be a part of our family.  She was brushed and loved.

But Chewy had noticed (more than I did) that the last week she had not been eating much.  And she had stopped coming down to be with us.  And she laid around a lot more.  I have to say that being sick and the kids being sick, I really did not notice the signs of sickness in her.    When Chewy said he wanted to take her to the vet, I was not totally convinced of it--I thought that perhaps she was just adjusting still. 

But, evidence started to mount this morning and it was obvious something was wrong.

Chewy and Michael took her to the vet.  Liver failure, possibly kidney failure.  As I type, they are gently putting her down.  I know that Chewy feels like we somehow failed Paul. 

But, I think we did what we could for her…

PAIL Bloggers - 20 Questions

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I haven't participated in a PAIL Blogger thread in a while (oh, I think before the Gall Bladder of Doom...), so thought this was a great way to re-introduce myself...
What was the last thing you threw in the garbage/recycling?  McDonalds containers, empty diet coke can and a LOT of used tissues (home with two sick kids--who barely ate their chicken nuggets)What’s the #1 most played song on your iPod? Lately, that would be this song.  Been a bit under the weather and depressed lately--so that seems to match my feelings.What is your favorite quote? It would have to be Eddie Izzard...there are so many...but my favorite would probably be: "I wanna live 'til I die, no more, no less."  What chore do you absolutely hate doing? Taking the clean dishes out of the dishwasher.  (I thought it would be dealing with the cat litter--but you know, I think I really hate doing the clean dishes out of the dishwasher more...)What is your favorite form of exercise? Using an ellipitcal mac…

Tired of Sick...

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Last Wednesday, I had a temperature and stayed home sick...not sure what I had (frankly, still have something), thinking sinus infection.

Well, Sunday Chewy got it...and he has been miserable most of this week.

And as if to tempt fate, my boss asked me about the kids yesterday--had they gotten sick or were we lucky?  Well, guess what--now I have been home today with not one, but TWO sick kids!

Luckily, I don't think they are too bad off--more worried about Michael actually, as he has been sleeping in all day today.

Hopefully, tomorrow everyone will be at school and work.  I still have a stuffed nose and an occassional cough--but I would say I am at 80%.  I hope everyone will recover faster.

Since November we have had bouts of sickness...I am sure my boss thinks I am some type of "cry-sick" person...but it really has been a rough five months!  I hope this is it for the Sick for now--cuz I am tired of it! 

Total Con 2013

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Not too soon after we got to the hotel, we found friends!
For Friday afternoon, Michael had a minatures game called Monster Smash!  (Basically, playing as all the Godzilla monsters smashing a model city).  I had an afternoon role playing game--I figured out a key thing to defeat the main monster--and then blew my dice role by ONE point!  soo...um, I did not survive...well, only one of our party survived...that is COC after all....

After dinner (pizza in the room), Chewy went to his game and me and the kids went to see a Rocky Horror type showing of the Buffy musical....

Willow with a Willow shirt. Face painted.

Did not see much of Michael during the weekend.  He was playing games and mainly hanging out with friends at the video game room.  Every so often we would pop in to make sure he was okay--and he would occassionally come up for air to get some snack food from our room...

One of the highlights for him was to play an old style D&D game GM'd by one of the legends, Frank Met…